Tribe.net. Local Connections iGGi SugarPop http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#9e2520ef-9005-4294-80b2-9fec864d361a 2009-09-13T22:13:45Z 2009-09-13T22:13:45Z

Oh yes, yes, yes to all of the above. I was a multi-tasker before anyone invented that term. As an artist I've always had multiple projects going at once. And as a creative writer I can invent characters very easily. Ever seen the movie, "Multiplicity"? I could so appreciate that man in all his many persons/ talents. Versatility and creative thinking -- yes!!!

iGGi SugarPop 2009-09-13T22:13:45Z ☼TouchRosesAhna☼ http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#ae7723df-e169-449c-94cd-875efbae4f50 2009-09-12T12:22:29Z 2009-09-12T12:22:29Z

Hi-hi.... just checking in and enjoying the replies :)

☼TouchRosesAhna☼ 2009-09-12T12:22:29Z Judia http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#6b4e54e0-0596-4019-8f85-8310a265bb04 2009-06-24T23:44:08Z 2009-06-24T23:44:08Z

We're smart! =D Has anyone said taht yet?

Judia 2009-06-24T23:44:08Z Kathy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#b14b34f0-38a6-4163-9bd8-27892769984d 2009-03-11T19:24:37Z 2009-03-11T19:24:37Z

We have guts! We SAY the things the "normies" only permit themselves to think. I love it when someone says "I'm so glad you said that, I was too afraid to".

Kathy 2009-03-11T19:24:37Z Troy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#3c02ab74-dfa4-40d7-8ba8-3a9dbbcbbd1f 2009-03-06T06:52:54Z 2009-03-06T06:52:54Z

Sympathy is a good thing, and does what you describe as empathy. Empathy is part of a condition where one lacks healthy boundaries and is often associated with co-dependency. Empathy is also delusional, unless one accepts ESP. We can relate to another (sympathy) but we can't feel what another feels (empathy). As I said before, it is common to use these terms interchangeably but there is a reason they are two different terms. The distinction I'm try to make is very clinical and there is a reason for it here. BTW I'm not talking about situations where people have a shared experience with similar emotional reactions, which is also often called empathy.

Troy 2009-03-06T06:52:54Z Tedster http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#40c494ba-7171-4ed6-836a-ad2f15f0a9e5 2009-03-06T02:25:39Z 2009-03-06T02:25:39Z

Empathy isn't always a bad thing. It enables people to relate to each other better, and lessons the harm that we would have put on other people.

Tedster 2009-03-06T02:25:39Z Troy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#b34a1bf0-785b-424a-a494-1f3c997427e5 2009-03-06T00:50:13Z 2009-03-06T00:50:13Z

"I'm also probably the most empathetic person I know. " Learning to be sympathetic (feeling towards another's pain/emotions) is healthier. Empathy (feel another's pain/emotions) is a psychological disorder (think about it carefully before you dismiss the idea). I know most people use sympathy and empathy interchangeably but there is a reason why they are different words. "Instead of just being hurt by a certain action in general, I'm hurt by every single aspect of every single action that went into committing "said act"." Perhaps, you are being hurt more by the possible aspects then the real or intended ones, I'm speaking from experience here. Generally you are right, you do sound like most people I know with ADD.

Troy 2009-03-06T00:50:13Z K. http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#180344d0-cb30-44fe-a9a1-49f3b864a112 2009-03-05T20:52:20Z 2009-03-05T20:52:20Z

This post definitely made me feel better. I joined just to reply to it. I came across this while researching some other ADD meds my doctor is thinking of putting me on. So, this was a breath of fresh air. I have to say that every single characteristic you listed describes me!! These are things I love about myself :0) I always said that I think too much. I know that I think differently than most people. I dissect every single aspect of everything, in the same time it takes anyone else to have a more simple thought. I think that this is why I'm so sensitive to being hurt. Instead of just being hurt by a certain action in general, I'm hurt by every single aspect of every single action that went into committing "said act". I'm also probably the most empathetic person I know. I like it though because it allows me to think outside the box, and come up with solutions that others wouldn't have considered. Solutions that to me seem like common sense. Another thing that I like about the way I think, is that I'm able to convince myself of things, and sort of talk myself down, if you know what I mean. I love to be challenged, and can't stop until I conquer something. I'm constantly self-teaching. When I first started my myspace page, I hated for my layout to look like everybody else. So, I basically went online, and spent about 18 hours teaching myself HTML, and completely overriding the page with my own design. I'm always doing things like that. Sometimes I wish I wasn't as sympathetic to the plights of others though. When I find out about a certain injustice it really hurts me, and I feel like I need to save the world, or just do something. When I fantasize about winning the lottery, my thoughts are filled with the types of programs I would create to help people, and how I would do it. No cars, vacations, etc. :0) My ultimate dream job would be to have some sort of non-profit helping one of the many causes I feel strongly about. For now I'm in school for HR management. I can at least help disenfranchised employees for now. I can sometimes get lost in my thoughts and lose all track of time. I am medicated which helps. Only once I start something that sparks my interest I'm consumed by it, and everything else goes lacking. Guess that's a price you pay.

K. 2009-03-05T20:52:20Z top of Cali Steve http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#0744f9df-12f3-42a5-bc23-b34e88f28203 2009-02-22T15:19:31Z 2009-02-22T15:19:31Z

you just read my bio! i swear thats me too a tee.. frustration is my big issue.. i keep myself as mentally busy as i can so i won't get bored.. whew! no meds here either.. just pot and cold beer.. well, excellent coffee in the morning.

top of Cali Steve 2009-02-22T15:19:31Z Judia http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#2c0c3950-0217-4acd-b260-d967e13c3c15 2009-02-07T10:51:58Z 2009-02-07T10:51:58Z

We run into relationships and situtions like a freight train. In otherwords, we tend to be overly open, overly friendly and know no strangers. This tends to hurt us in many ways, though, because it leaves us open for vicious people that thrive on the pain of others.

Judia 2009-02-07T10:51:58Z Jessy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#b9b59faf-a945-4f3a-857f-053c4d9e789a 2008-12-18T18:26:08Z 2008-12-18T18:26:08Z

ooooooooooooh yeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssssssssssss... sounds like a good idea( for me at least) : P

Jessy 2008-12-18T18:26:08Z SynerGy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#00533b2d-505a-49c8-9152-6f01ed359e5a 2008-12-18T18:18:26Z 2008-12-18T18:18:26Z

i think i'm going to start making adderall smoothies / milkshakes imagine that

SynerGy 2008-12-18T18:18:26Z Jessy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#ae896f7e-2078-45ee-9f00-e26dfc3768bf 2008-12-18T17:56:02Z 2008-12-18T17:56:02Z

make who feel better SynerGy?? Ill take one plz and thank you : )

Jessy 2008-12-18T17:56:02Z SynerGy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#220544cd-cc33-47e5-8370-8bb4b554766b 2008-12-18T15:18:21Z 2008-12-18T15:18:21Z

Adderall :)))

SynerGy 2008-12-18T15:18:21Z Jessy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#a58ca87b-6f88-4e66-bdad-b4e551763301 2008-12-18T14:44:59Z 2008-12-18T14:44:59Z

I dont really have the H.( only ADD).. but I love my hyper focus... I can get anything and everything done in 2 seconds flat..(Ok maybe a little longer but you get it right? ) and yes I am very good with people and being in tune with thier needs ... no words necessary : )

Jessy 2008-12-18T14:44:59Z SASHAME http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#e2376e86-b798-4f56-b980-01be2f9f866f 2008-12-18T14:23:24Z 2008-12-18T14:23:16Z

as a mother of a younge child with adhd, i notice that he is very creative, caring and loving at times. greatly intillectual and at times extremely focused. yes, i believe john called hyperfocus. as i look back at my childhood, i was probly adhd too. i was never diagnosed or medicated. i was always fidgety and creative and loud later in life...haha. is it true that it is genetic? what else do i have to look forward to?

SASHAME 2008-12-18T14:23:16Z John http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#12a98708-b4f1-44bc-89ae-65ac0b9d0633 2008-06-09T08:08:08Z 2008-06-09T08:08:08Z

Thinking "out of the box", sometimes way, way out. We value honesty more than most people. We usually have a broad, if sometimes shallow, body of knowledge (great Trivial Pursuit or Jeopardy players). Ability to 'hyperfocus', this can be especially nice with regards to sex.

John 2008-06-09T08:08:08Z Gretchen http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#08db22ca-92be-4681-b787-6fe9fe61710f 2008-06-08T20:38:06Z 2008-06-08T20:38:06Z

All the things you listed -- we're unique, creative, expansive thinkers, leaders, insightful, etc -- are things that I treasure about being ADHD. Not to mention that when you are employed your boss gets the equivalent of 2 or 3 workers for the price of one. Since I am female and was born in 1950 - the thought never occurred to any one that ADHD was a possibility. I was lucky and was brought up in a very creative and intellectual environment where we thrived on reading, music, discussions, debates -- all things that served as a way to absorb so much of that excess energy. I can remember getting up at the age of 9 years at 3 in the morning and debating history with my father at the kitchen table. I learned techniques over time (falls into the 'highly compensating" category) to deal with situations (like lectures in college) where I needed to channel the energy - so while I took notes in class, I also kept a running journal. I know I've seen lists -- but I know that ADHD shows up as a trait is a number of highly successful, incredibly intelligent, and totally remarkable people. The only problem is that the parts of ADHD that are good for us can sometimes drive our partners/friends crazy (how fast can you talk and about how many subjects at once?). So while I'd rather not take meds for it, I do so that I don't drive my family/friends crazy. But I wouldn't have changed this for anything -- to me the "benefits" of having ADHD far outweigh the negatives. Gret

Gretchen 2008-06-08T20:38:06Z SynerGy http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#6c2f1317-9d75-44ed-bae0-6b89de00de06 2008-06-08T18:52:51Z 2008-06-08T18:52:51Z

yeah i enjoy feeding people and bringing people food gifts like good cheeses and so on ...

SynerGy 2008-06-08T18:52:51Z DravenGal http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#280ae164-0e4a-45a5-a288-378cd0746278 2008-06-07T18:18:50Z 2008-06-07T18:18:50Z

We tend to be very generous as well, from what I've seen. Comes from the whole endorphin thing of giving gifts.

DravenGal 2008-06-07T18:18:50Z ☼TouchRosesAhna☼ http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#f6cebf19-bd65-4c5e-b1a3-5bd4e2fd0efb 2008-06-07T06:18:43Z 2008-06-07T06:18:43Z

Yes, spontaneous can be really fun and adds excitement to our lives.

☼TouchRosesAhna☼ 2008-06-07T06:18:43Z Tedster http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#7c3effcd-7822-468e-afbb-fcf53dc616da 2008-06-07T06:00:03Z 2008-06-07T06:00:03Z

-We are spontaneous. -We have a certain insight on other people because of our own disorder, but that you already brought up.

Tedster 2008-06-07T06:00:03Z ☼TouchRosesAhna☼ http://add-and-adhd.tribe.net/thread/d2cfa65d-f158-4de2-ab26-41b312d88fa5#5780240d-cfb5-4f00-aaa4-dff3c61965b9 2008-06-07T05:50:57Z 2008-06-07T05:50:57Z

I've been doing a bit of research and found the following characteristics in ADHD people: - People with ADHD are very unique... we tend to be the ones that can "think outside the box". - We are highly creative in our thinking; being able to see things from all angles. - Our hyper minds allow us to think far and wide and back again, making us good multi-taskers and again, very creative. - We make good leaders. - We are very insightful. - We are very strong in our ability to observe, calculate and understand other peoples emotions. Our emotional intelligence is very high and can be used to help others. - We are also highly sensitive which can be good and bad. If used properly, it makes us very caring and sympathetic to others. - We enjoy challenges and are good at solving problems. Please see if any of this is true for you and add to the list!!! I know that I felt better having found some of these characteristics true within myself. I am an artist and I work in a wide variety of mediums. If I get bored with one project, I just move to another, LOL. I am super sensitive and highly intune with my emotions as well as others emotions. I am currently in the process of learning how to control my emotions better so I don't get hurt so deeply. I do love a challenge and that would be my art business and trying to make it successful. I am also a leader of a successful promotional group. I love to solve problems and give advice and I am told that I am good at that (because, yes, I can see both sides and everything in between). I am also a Reiki Master and it doesn't get more insightful and imaginative than that, LOL. My creativity, focus and drive have led to having some articles published in a national magazine. My biggest challenge though is getting bored easily, waiting and racing negative thoughts. Ugh... I hate those. Let's here from you... what are some of your accomplishments despite having ADHD??

☼TouchRosesAhna☼ 2008-06-07T05:50:57Z